Just over a year after welcoming quadruplets, Napier mum Joanne Wills is facing life as a solo mother of five after the death of her beloved husband Brett
''There are moments when I find it's overwhelming. But you have to come back to your core. The core of me is not defined by the circumstance I found myself in.''
Lesley Porter lost her family in a car accident at the age of five, and was then shunted from one relative to another for the next six years. She finally found solace at a horse riding school. Her experience inspired her to set up her own farm to help other children.
Although she's read books about the inquiry, Lizzie says it has taken her decades to work through what happened, especially to her nan, whose body was never recovered.
'My breakdown was my breakthrough. Rather than looking back at what could have been, I embraced what was. I also allowed my feelings of grief 'to be' and flow through me rather than resist it.'
Christmas and the New Year can be reminders that the year has passed and you are still trying for the baby you yearn for. These strategies can help to ease the sadness.
As Michelle Obama put it, "It's the worst thing that we do to each other as women. Not share the truth about our bodÂies and how they work – and how they don't work."