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Dear Wendyl, oy best friend is getting married and I was delighted when she asked me to be her bridesmaid. But when I accepted, I didn’t realise I would have to give a speech. I’m really nervous and don’t know what to say. Help! Panicked, Rotorua
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Dear Panicked, As long as you don’t give the traditional bridesmaid speech – which starts with what a great friend the bride is, then descends into tears and finishes with what a great guy the groom is and how lucky the great bride is to be marrying such a great groom – you’ll be fine.
So, let’s start with your nerves. When you’re up there, imagine everyone in the room is in their underwear. Do take some rescue remedy just before you get up to speak, and don’t have more than one glass of alcohol. Don’t think you have to talk for half an hour – five well-spoken minutes are worth 30 badly done ones.
Remember, people always love stories that tug at their heartstrings. So think of a few events that make the bride look like Mother Theresa. Forget the ones where she lost her undies and woke up next to the groom’s cousin. And when you’re up there, if you stumble or lose your way, just tell the audience you are a bit nervous and you will win them over and find it much easier. Visit www.diyweddingspeech.com for more ideas. And don’t forget to have fun.
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